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New Life
I wish you not only a happy new year but also a happy new day, every single day.
A new year isn’t the only time to feel excited about new plans and resolutions; we have the chance to start over every single day.
Becoming a single mom, however it happened—even if it was your choice—means you’ve undoubtedly faced tough times.
It takes all of your strength to start over when nothing turned out the way you once hoped it would on your wedding day.
When did it go wrong? Why did this happen? We weren’t unrealistic dreamers when all we wanted was a happy, supportive family.
When those dreams end, it can feel like life ends with them.
But every ending makes room for something new.
You have a new life now, and you can shape it into whatever you want it to be.
Dream big! Dream about carving out time for self-care. Put away your mobile phone, bring out the board games, turn off the TV, and turn up the music.
Have housecleaning parties with your kids and raise your glasses with pineapple cocktails.
Celebrate the small victories and make joy a part of your daily life.
Reality might be hard enough, but let your dreams be vibrant and inspiring, because everything starts with a dream.
Have a happy new day—today, tomorrow, and every day ahead.
Don’t worry about the days when nothing went right, when it felt like everything was wasted. You don’t need to wait a whole year for new resolutions. Just wait until you wake up.
Christmas traditions
Specially when it comes to christmas time, family traditions was what we was looking forward to.
Traditions might have changed, since you become a single mom.
Even you now are forced to change traditions, try to be open minded , welcome changes and feel free to establish new traditions.
Life is like a christmas calendar, behind every door is something surprising waiting, but you will never know , if you do not open doors and like everything in life it costs a little effort.
You need to get a calender.
Even if you cant effort expensive gifts, dont worry, all they need is your time and love.
Wish all single moms a happy christmas time.
When telling your kids wonderful, magical storys, do believe in them yourself. Accidentally they will come true.
the legacy
What do I leave to my children?
Is that what defines our lives, a question to which no one has an answer.
Even if only very few people manage to not be forgotten in the third generation. The values that we pass on to our children are far more important than the material ones.
We shouldn't put the change in this world on their shoulders, but they should know that it's smart and courageous to ask stupid questions.
Not accepting everything that bothers or surprises us without being afraid that they will become complaining, irritating people. You can also complain with positive curiosity.
We can free ourselves from the stress on our shoulders of having to leave something for our children to do well.
If they have learned to stand on theyr own two feet, we don't need to worry and if we leave them a legacy of good values, they will have an optimal foundation.
2 homes
Different countrys handle childrens home after divorce different. I m living in Norway there it is common to « share» your children 50/50
It is so common that the conversation of 4 year olds around the playtable in kindergarden is about the question « are you with you mom or dad this week» «mom» «mom» « dad»
only one of the kids says « with mom and dad» « what?» 10 kids are wondering about this very strange possibilty.
They are often very little when the starting to be shared.
The kids move between father and mother week after week.
The parents sharing the half of the missing time of theyrs childrens grow up.
The children have 2 adresses, 2 birthdaypartys, 2 christmastrees.
They have to leave theyr home for theyr second home, pack theyr bags and favourite toys every sundays.
In other countrys the mothers still have more rights to decide how much time theyr kids can spend with theyr dads, specially when they ve not been married.
Anyway if you love your child you accept that they spend time with the other parent, you try everything to prepare for the new situation.
Here in Norway its the normal sharing 50/50. One parent is not allowed to move without the acception of the other. Its ok.
The family department tells you its for the best than we believe it is.
You need to trust that the other is like grown up and dont tell bad things in theyr week, no matter what.
You might need to start every monday again with showing you unconditional love, your rules, your values you try to teach.
You might have not the same conditions but the kids will adapt.
All they need is that you are happy no matter where they are , they can tell you everything on theyr minds and hearts and they are not responsible for the change the family has gone through.
The hardest day are the mondays in the empty house, toys laying around unused. Mom have time to put the feeds up in evenings before she goes to sleep all alone.
This week is hard for moms and keep all the strenght to keep the head up high.
Carry your package ( with your head up high)
Everyone has to carry their own package, for some it is a letter, for others it is a heavy rock. One should never compare or wish to switch one's problems with another. Maybe the rock is just a dummy made of cardboard and no one knows how heavy the content of the letter is.
No matter how difficult some days feel, never let anyone tell you that you are not good enough.
Someone who wants to tell you that you are not good enough , is not seeing the whole picture of you and you have no need for such a person in your life.
Remember, take care of you, you need all your strength for caring for your kids.
And remember, keep your head up
parenting is not for perfectionists
don't be so hard on yourself. Despite there being an enormous amount of research and recommendations, there is no conclusion, other than that you are doing well enough if you are just a mum with all your heart. This very special love that begins with the first little tickle you feel of life in your belly and only grows with every little kick you get from your child growing inside you and never ends.
As long as you show this love and give your children the security that it will always be there no matter what.
They know and see through you in all your facets, when you get sad, disappointed, frustrated, angry, if you are honest with yourself in all of them, they know , that it is not them, but the situation that you are reacting to.
You want to raise your kids as nice people, who find friends easily, have good values, stand up for others.
I believe that the more honest feelings they get to experience, the better they will be prepared for the life they will go out to one day and shall succeed on their own. The sun doesn't shine out there all the time. They should not be alarmed and surprised by storms because they are only familiar with blue skies.
They should not grow up in a sterile room and become seriously ill at the first contact they have with the outside world , because their immune system has never been taught to fight bacteria or viruses.
Everything in moderation, of course, it's okay to cheat a little to protect your children, it's okay with a little white lie sometimes, to not burden them with all the world's sorrows and crises.
What I will say is only that I think your love let you do the greater part right. Don't be too hard on yourself.
How i ended up here
My name is Michaela.
My surname is still one i dont like , but thats an other story. Needs to be changed when its time for it.
I m born and grown up in the earlier country of eastern Germany in a small village by the sea. The wall, which devided Germany and kept us from traveling, fall just in time for me to go out to discover the world. I ended up in the north if Norway already 20 years ago , almost exactly.
It could have ended worst , this is only 2000 km away from home, family and friends.
I have 2 kids and a dog and my own little old house. 2 kids with 2 different fathers. Just this fact may let you wonder, is there something wrong with me, am i uncapable to handle realonships?
No its not , its never only on you, because storys always have different sides, depence who is telling them.
Its not you , when you have been left alone , even not if this recalls. Its just the fact, that you have not been lucky enough yet to find the person, who share the same dreams like you, appreciate you exactly for the person you are.
Forgives you all the little mistakes all of us do all the time. The person, who accept you as you are and that some stupid habbits can not be changed , because than it would'ndt be you any longer.
You are just not yet arrived at your personal destination , there is more you need to learn and find out about life.
Wherever you come from , however you found my side , i m happy you are interested to read it.
You are welcome to share your story with me.
I wish you a nice morning, a nice day or a god night, depending on which timezone you are living.
Remember : keep your head up :)
Mount Everest without applause
To all single mothers:
You are invisible mountain climbers, and your strength and courage is remarkable. Remember that, even if the world sometimes forgets to tell you.
Being a single mother is like climbing Mount Everest - every day.
But where mountain climbers are praised for their courage and feats, as a single mother you often take this daily climbing trip without applause, without cheering crowds, and without any medal at the end of the day.
You keep a house, raise children, and build a life - all on your own. The climb begins at dawn YOU start your day long before most of us have considered waking up.
You get ready for a new day with hectic logistics: breakfast for the children, greasing packed lunches, remembering everything from dental appointments to football training.
For a single mother, there are no other adults to jump in and take over when time is short, and no one to ask when decisions need to be made quickly. You are both the team and the leader - day after day.
Dealing with life's steep uphills alone On Mount Everest, climbers battle cold, lack of oxygen and dangerous slopes.
In the same way, as a single mother you sometimes face everyday struggles that can seem endless: financial worries, social pressure, and the heavy responsibility for the children's future.
Many experience challenges in balancing work and caring for the children, and are at risk of burnout - often without anyone noticing. A quiet strength It's easy to think of strength as something that is shouted out or displayed, but single mothers' strength is of the quiet, unspoken kind.
It shows in your tireless care, your ability to meet the children's needs, no matter what they themselves have to go through. Your perseverance is not dramatic - no documentary has been written about "the lonely everyday life of a single mother" - but it is real.
Your effort is, in many ways, like climbing a mountain wall without even seeing the top, but you still don't stop.
The joy and meaning along the way For you as a single mother, the reward can lie in the small moments created with the children: the laughter at the dinner table, hugs before bedtime, or when the children learn something new and their eyes light up with mastery. These small moments are like intermediate stations on the way up Everest - they give courage to continue. Why we deserve more recognition It is time for society to give single mothers the tribute they deserve.
Coping alone with children is a feat, as much as climbing a mountain.
We must become more visible in society. We deserve consideration, a little cheering or support. Because we climb up day after day, not for the fame, but because we love our children.
Moms life is a marathon
They say, “Challenges make you strong.” But I never set out to become a superwoman. I would have been perfectly content with a quiet, simple life, growing old without much need for strength. Life, however, had other plans. Life is a personal trainer doesn’t let you sit still, and as a single mom, a gym membership feels redundant—everyday life is already a marathon.
But we don’t run this race alone. All over the world, single mothers are running beside us, tackling life’s hurdles as a team. Let’s cross that finish line together, sharing our strength, lifting each other up, and cheering each other on.
Wishing you a wonderful morning, a peaceful evening, or a cozy night whatever timezone you live , with a song that can bring you a little comfort.
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